It’s a situation no parent wants to face: your child is refusing to visit their other parent, despite a court-ordered parenting time agreement. Whether the refusal is rooted in emotional conflict, anxiety, or something more serious, it puts everyone in a difficult position. In Michigan, parents are expected to follow court orders, but that doesn't mean you're powerless if your child resists. Understanding your legal responsibilities and options can help you handle the situation constructively.

Why Children Refuse Parenting Time

There are many reasons a child may resist visitation with a parent, and understanding the root cause is essential:

Emotional distress or unresolved trauma
Loyalty conflicts following the divorce
Discomfort with new partners or blended families
Different parenting styles or household rules
Abuse or neglect concerns (real or perceived)
Teen independence and preference

Recognizing the reason behind your child’s refusal is the first step toward a resolution.

Your Legal Obligations as a Parent

In Michigan, parenting time orders are enforceable by law. This means:

You are required to comply with the court order, even if your child does not want to go.
You must make reasonable efforts to encourage and facilitate visits with the other parent.
You cannot unilaterally change or withhold parenting time without a new court order.

If you fail to follow the court order, even with good intentions, you could be held in contempt of court.

What You Can Do If Your Child Refuses to Visit

1. Have an Open Conversation

Talk with your child to understand their perspective. Validate their feelings while emphasizing the importance of following court orders. If appropriate, talk to the other parent to see if a compromise or temporary adjustment can help ease tensions.

2. Document the Situation

Keep detailed records of each refusal, including:

Date and time of the scheduled visit
Your efforts to comply with the court order
Your child’s statements and behavior

This documentation can be helpful if the issue escalates or needs to be addressed legally.

3. Consider Therapy or Counseling

Sometimes children need a neutral third party to help them express their feelings. Family therapy or individual counseling can uncover underlying issues and support your child emotionally during transitions between households.

4. File a Motion to Modify Parenting Time

If the situation becomes persistent and problematic, you may need to return to court. A judge can review the circumstances and determine whether a modification to the parenting time schedule is in the child’s best interests.

5. Seek Legal Guidance

A family law attorney can help you understand your rights and responsibilities and represent you in court if necessary. They can also help you file the appropriate motions or defend against accusations of noncompliance.

When the Refusal May Signal Something More Serious

If your child expresses fear or discomfort that raises red flags about abuse, neglect, or unsafe conditions, take it seriously:

Document the concern thoroughly
Contact Child Protective Services (CPS) if warranted
Work with your attorney to file an emergency motion if your child’s safety is at risk

Courts prioritize the safety and well-being of children, and any claims of abuse will be thoroughly investigated.

What You Can Expect

Responsive Legal Support: We listen first and act quickly to protect your child’s best interests.
Strategic Guidance: Clear direction on how to comply with court orders while advocating for your child.
Experience in Post-Judgment Modifications: Trusted help with parenting time changes and enforcement actions.
Child-Centered Approach: A commitment to minimizing conflict and protecting your child’s emotional health.

Protecting Your Family Starts with Clarity

If your child refuses to visit their other parent, it can create a whirlwind of stress, confusion, and legal uncertainty. But you don’t have to navigate it alone. The experienced family law team at Harris & Literski is here to guide you through every step, from understanding your obligations to seeking court-approved changes when necessary.

Contact us today to discuss your situation and learn how we can help you support your child while protecting your parental rights.

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