Conflicts in a co-parenting relationship can have many effects. They could impact how effective such a relationship is likely to be.
Among the things that can influence how likely major conflicts are to come up between ex-spouses in regards to co-parenting is how well-tailored the agreements they reached in their divorce that relate to the kids (like agreements on child custody and child support) are to their family’s unique circumstances. This includes whether such agreements properly take into account the major concerns the parents have regarding co-parenting.
Parents can differ quite a bit in what concerns are the dominant ones for them when it comes to co-parenting. For example, a recent study points to men and women tending towards different kinds of concerns.
The study looked at what types of concerns were most likely to impact the co-parenting-related behavior of men and women. The study found that women tended to be more affected by concerns related to their ex-spouse’s parental fitness and mental state. Meanwhile, it found that men tended to be more affected by legal and financial concerns.
What impacts do you think this has on what kinds of co-parenting education are, generally, most effective?
Now, of course, while it does appear that there are some gender trends when it comes to co-parenting concerns, this does not mean that all individuals of one type of gender have the same types of concerns regarding co-parenting. Every divorced couple’s situation is different and every person has their own unique characteristics. So, every divorcing parent can go into negotiations over agreements related to the kids with their own unique concerns. Divorce attorneys can help such parents with understanding what they can do in such negotiations to address their particular concerns.
Source: Lake News Online, “MU family researchers offer suggestions to improve co-parenting plans after divorce,” Roseann Sorce, Dec. 6, 2016